This page is a mess / work in progress of more than a year of ideas

when you are in an uncomfortable situation surrounded by unfamiliar people, the best thing you can say hello

TODO: interviewing people is the number 1 skill… look up buscamente video where he talks ab this

Life is limitation. Perfectionism is death because it hyper-focuses on the gains of diminishing returns rather than the sweeping gains of exploring breadth and leaning into your unique strengths.

respecting randomness

It seems that you are only focused on your needs, not mine. is that intentional?

Explore your own algorithm. You do something more efficiently than everyone else. Don’t spend time trying for conform yourself to other people’s concept of efficiency and instead move quickly and continue to refine your own path in everything you learn.

Limit sensual pleasures

You’re ability to thrive in this world is to seek out, process, and respond to information as quickly as possible. Not as a sponge, but as a conduit

comparison anxiety, jealousy Myers-Briggs

meditate on your blindspot

Greatest Life Lessons

  1. Selling is all about being able to tell great stories –and understanding the audience you are telling them to
  2. Learn your unique thinking style and use it to your advantage
  3. Seek to inspire, not to impress
  4. Change is transformative, but you do not necessarily need to distance yourself from close people or circumstances in your life to put yourself in a better position for change
  5. Finding housing
  6. Budget your money —and your time

Before raising kids

  1. Know how to hunt
  2. Know how to defend yourself
  3. Know the signs of choking
  4. Individuality, creativity, and basic trust

Well roundedness at every stage…

What do these 6 things look like at every stage of development? (infancy, toddler, young child, older child, preteen, teen, old teen, young adult)

Pre-infancy

Infancy

Toddler

Child

Pre-teen

Teen

Young Adult

Becoming a well rounded person

  1. Learn how to take agency
  2. Learn how to fight (and develop physical discipline)
    • Cultivate Athleticism
      • Know your physical limitations and propensities
      • Numbers can be cheated, but athleticism speaks for itself
      • Slow is smooth, smooth is fast
    • “The only solution for bad and violent people, are good people that are more skilled in violence”
    • We give up greatness in deference to comfort
    • Appreciate pain, don’t over-validate it or make it traumatizing
    • Understand the rules of engagement with authorities and those with the potential to hurt you
    • maintain your balance
    • depend on your balance more than your eyesight
    • keep your head at 90
    • Understand the importance of yielding respect to those with less power
      • Humility
    • Part of the reason you learn to fight is to understand the cost of violence
  3. Learn how to stay in business
    • Identify Core Skills and Important Skills
    • Self employment vs Hierarchical employment
    • Financial literacy
      • Investing
      • Budgeting
    • Investing
      • Risk analysis
    • Acceptance of mistakes and failure (“that’s ok”)
    • Consistency
    • Understanding niches
      • Knowledge graphs
    • Becoming a conduit of information instead of a sponge
  4. Learn how to survive
    • Know your Doomsday Plan
    • Prioritize self-reliance
    • Threat Modeling
    • Understanding of the natural world
      • Learn how to swim
      • Hunting
      • Fishing
  5. Learn how to get along with others
    • Asabiyyah
    • Game Theory principles
    • First Impressions
    • The humanity chart – “police (we can extend this to people) are like dogs, don’t pet them until you’ve vetted them”
    • Be able to pinpoint a persons insecurities (and make light of them)
    • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KdWNS42sf9k
    • There are ‘No-Go’ things you should never say casually
      • What you earn
      • What you rank (which others can’t help but compare to)
      • How much you trust someone
    • Do not engage in objectification
    • Relationship building
    • A lot of times people aren’t mean; they are just shy
    • Boundaries
    • Learn and enjoy the art form of conversation
    • Show the same baseline respect for everyone
      • Even if you don’t like them
      • Even if they don’t show it back
      • Even if they don’t have much power over your quality of life
    • For people you don’t have nice things to say anything about look for the potential of good and try to fish it out of them
    • Never assume you know what a person does or does not want.
    • Familiarity breeds contempt
      • If you get too loose and too familiar with folks you need to share with, they don’t believe nothing you’re saying \–Dr. Bertice Berry
  6. Learn how to make and maintain healthy relationships
    • Express your admiration and how much you value your friends, peers, and family
    • Invest your time in people who are happy for others but not for people who aren’t
    • Don’t connect online with people you don’t know
  7. Learn what matters